Saturday, December 13, 2008



When GOD ran

Almighty God,
The Great I Am,
Immovable Rock,
Omnipotent,
Powerful,
Awesome Lord,
Victorious Warrior,
Commanding Kind Of Kings,
Mighty Conqueror

And the only time,
The only time I ever saw Him run
Was when He ran to me,
Took me in His arms
Held my head to his chest,
Said my son's come home again
Lifted my face,
Wiped the tears from my eyes
With forgiveness in His voice
He said son,
Do you know I still love you?
It caught me by surprise,
When God ran

The day I left home,
I knew I had broken His heart
I wondered then
If things could ever be the same

Then one night,
I remembered His love for me
And down that dusty road
Ahead I could see


It's the only time,
The only time I ever saw Him run
When He ran to me,
Took me in his arms
Held my head to his chest,
Said my son's come home again,
Lifted my face,
Wiped the tears from my eyes
With forgiveness in his voice,
He said son,
Do you know I still love you?
It caught me by surprise,
It brought me to my knees
When God ran


当上帝奔跑

全能神
伟大的自有永有者
永不动摇的磐石,无所不能,大能,
可畏之主;
得胜之士,统领万王之王
大能的得胜者

唯有那一次
唯有那一次 我看见他奔跑了
当他向我奔来,双手将我握着
容我一头埋在他怀里,
说道:“我儿回家了”
他使我仰脸,擦去我眼中的泪
带着宽恕,
说道:“我儿,你知道我仍爱着你吗”
上帝的奔跑,出人意表,叫人称奇

那一天我离家,我已知他心碎
我不晓得,一切是否能如前

一天夜里
我蓦然想起他的爱
在灰暗的前路,
让我看见了

唯有那一次
唯有那一次 我看见他奔跑了
当他向我奔来,双手将我握着
容我一头埋在他怀里,
说道:“我儿回家了”
他使我仰脸,擦去我眼中的泪
带着宽恕,
说道:“我儿,你知道我仍爱着你吗”
上帝的奔跑,出人意表,叫人称奇

当上帝奔跑,我不禁跪地



Saturday, November 8, 2008

Love Being Married

Just love to read this section. Sometimes, all is still and quiet, I ask my heart and my mind, what's so different about the Love of CHRIST that changes people's lives, that changes my life? It's the higher purpose we've been called for. A greater than life purpose.

That, i guess, is the ultimate objective of marriage, to live out the higher purpose we've been tasked to; to learn and to be transformed by GOD permitted trials to become more Christ-like and worthy of the gospel.
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Love Being Married
5 great reasons why I do—and you can, too!
Jane Johnson Struck

http://www.christianitytoday.com/tcw/2003/sepoct/7.54.html?start=3

5. Higher Goals Marriage

for marriage's sake is self- serving. But for believers, marriage has a higher purpose, a larger mission in life than a series of acquisitions or accomplishments, or an attempt to end loneliness. It's to reflect Christ's relationship with his church to a watching world.

I'm convinced God intends marriage to stretch us in ways it's hard to experience otherwise. After all, you're in the trenches of living daily with another flawed human being in need of grace, forgiveness, patience, and love—just as you are. Through the years I've been married to Rich, I've been caught short by my appallingly selfish and controlling nature … and exhilarated by moments of utter selflessness. As I'm willing, God can use the most mundane aspects of our life together—my frustration over having to wait for a longed-for home improvement, or a minor clash over disciplining one of our kids—to transform me into someone who's more Christlike.
The great thing about marriage is that even during those tough moments of life together, it teaches me constancy, commitment, and faithfulness. I love being married—and watching God at work!

Copyright 2003 by the author or Christianity Today International/Today's Christian Woman magazine.Click here for reprint information on Today's Christian Woman.

Sunday, October 26, 2008

Just got the chance to read this article.

Hmm... I guess i just realise today's men are more emotional and in touch with their feelings than what we knew to be... (what I knew to be)

Life's (actually people) getting so complicated compared to many many donkey year's back...


source : MSN Lifestyle http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/articlerb.aspx?cp-documentid=11290632&GT1=32023

The Truth About Why Men Cheat

By Nicole YorioAdd page to favorites

Counselor M. Gary Neuman surveyed 200 cheating and non-cheating husbands to get at the real reasons behind men's infidelity.

What makes men cheat? Marriage counselor M. Gary Neuman dug through past research on male infidelity and found that most answers came from the wife's point of view. Wouldn't it make more sense to ask the guys? he thought. So for his new book, The Truth About Cheating, Neuman surveyed 200 cheating and non-cheating husbands to get at the real reasons behind men's infidelity — including what cheating men say could have prevented them from straying. Here, some of his findings:

48% of men rated emotional dissatisfaction as the primary reason they cheated.So much for the myth that for men, cheating is all about sex: Only 8 percent of men said that sexual dissatisfaction was the main factor in their infidelity. "Our culture tells us that all men need to be happy is sex," Neuman says. "But men are emotionally driven beings too. They want their wives to show them that they're appreciated, and they want women to understand how hard they're trying to get things right." The problem is that men are less likely than women to express these feelings, so you won't always know when your guy is in need of a little affirmation. "Most men consider it unmanly to ask for a pat on the back, which is why their emotional needs are often overlooked," Neuman says. "But you can create a marital culture of appreciation and thoughtfulness — and once you set the tone, he's likely to match it."

66% of cheating men report feeling guilt during the affair. The implications are a little scary: It isn't just uncaring jerks who cheat. In fact, 68 percent of cheaters never dreamed they'd be unfaithful, and almost all of them wished they hadn't done it, Neuman says. Clearly, guilt isn't enough to stop a man from cheating. "Men are good at compartmentalizing feelings," Neuman explains. "They can hold on to their emotions and deal with them later." So even if your husband swears he would never cheat, don't assume it can't happen. It's important for both of you to take steps toward creating the marriage you want.

77% of cheating men have a good friend who cheated. Hanging around friends who stray makes cheating seem normal and legitimizes it as a possibility. The message he's subconsciously telling himself: My friend is a good guy who happens to be cheating on his wife. I guess even the best of us do it. You can't simply ban your husband from hanging out with Mr. Wandering Eyes, Neuman says, but you can request that they spend their time together in an environment that offers less temptation, like at a sporting event or a restaurant for lunch rather than at a bar or club. Another strategy: Build your social circle around happily married couples that share your values — it'll create an environment that supports marriage.



The Truth About Why Men Cheat
(continued)


40% of cheating men met the other woman at work."Oftentimes the woman he cheats with at the office is someone who praises him, looks up to him, and compliments his efforts," Neuman says. "That's another reason why it's so critical that he feel valued at home." Luckily, there's a clear warning sign that your husband is getting a little too cozy with a colleague: If he praises or mentions the name of a female coworker more than he would a male counterpart, your antennae should go up — and it's time for the two of you to set boundaries about what is and isn't okay at work, Neuman says. Is it acceptable for him to work late if it's only him and her? Can they travel together to conferences? Have dinners out to discuss a project? Ask him what he'd feel comfortable with you doing with a male colleague.

Only 12% of cheating men said their mistress was more physically attractive than their wife.In other words, a man doesn't stray because he thinks he'll get better sex with a better-looking body. "In most cases, he's cheating to fill an emotional void," Neuman says. "He feels a connection with the other woman, and sex comes along for the ride." If you're worried about infidelity, focus on making your relationship more loving and connected, not on getting your body just right or mastering new sexual positions. (But know that sex does matter — it's one of the key ways your guy expresses his love and feels close to you, so be sure to keep it a priority.)

Only 6% of cheating men had sex with a woman after meeting her that same day or night. Actually, 73 percent of men got to know the other woman for more than a month before they cheated. This means that you may have time to see the warning signs before infidelity occurs — you might even see it coming before he does. Keep an eye out for these common signals: He spends more time away from home, stops asking for sex, picks fights more frequently, or avoids your calls. Your gut reaction may be to confront him, but most men will deny even thinking about cheating — especially if nothing physical has occurred yet. Instead, Neuman suggests, take charge of what you can control — your own behavior — and take the lead in bringing your marriage to a better place. Don't hesitate to show your appreciation for him, prioritize time together, and initiate sex more. Give him a reason to keep you at the front of his mind, Neuman says. And be open about how you feel about what's going on between the two of you (again, without mentioning any third parties). Try, "I think we've started to lose something important in our marriage, and I don't want it to disappear." In the meantime, commit to keeping tabs on your relationship and doing what it takes to keep it working for you.


Sunday, June 29, 2008

My thoughts about children (1/2 from our newest system)...

My service as sunday school teacher for the LORD. Praise GOD! Yesterday managed to get HZ boy boy (3yrs) to stop crying halfway through his tear with a circus book at centre.

It's not by my wisdom or wit, but by the blessings of the LORD.

After having read some children's books like Parenting the Heart of your Child by Diane Moore. i felt more confident from gaining insight about children's hearts over the past 1/2 yr since Dec 07. Despite there being no step by step quick fixes on "what to do" and how soon to get that "it" done.

Anyway, quick fixed and "one-minute done" stuffs aren't really in GOD's favorite answers to us. GOD's ways are more about training, endurance, perservering long-suffering and so on (things to do with good and long ways yeah! that's what they're all about)

As a result or interrelatedly, i felt more and more "steady" and ready when doing stuff with kids and spending time with them. Actually, the fact is, the kids know who they're with. And they know who they can do what with.

Give in to them all the times, they 'll turn into brats. Take them by force all the time and get their sneers and mental rejection.

There's not a single hard and fast rule with any kid at any one point of time, because each time, each one kid is a different kid from the previous week you last saw him and something may have changed his mind about how he's going to behave.

That's the beauty of it all, that's where the challenge and the fun lies.

But one absolute fact is that, they're all loved by GOD so dearly and GOD Himself says, let the little children come.

Luke18:16 But Jesus called them unto him, and said, Suffer little children to come unto me, and forbid them not: for of such is the kingdom of God.

May we continue to love them more and more.

This year, much of the smaller class has "graduated" and moved on to the bigger class, we've like only 8 kids (6 were listening, 2 were staring and looking around, another 3 more when we do drawing) . The rest has already

graduated!

How comforting it is, to know the children that has been with us for the past few year(s) or years, to move on to the bigger, more matured class.

May they continue to grow and grow well in GOD's wisdom and understanding His brilliant will for each or every one of them.

in Christ's precious Name i pray
Amen!

Tuesday, May 13, 2008

Exclusive Entanglement...

just read this and felt that what's so true ...

...faithfulness, not just in body but in spirit as well. Remember, your commitment is seen not in what you feel like doing or intend to do; it comes out in what you actually end up doing.

Love is much more than just a feeling. It's a choice to respond to another person in a way that is love.

The beautiful thing about a romantic relationship is that love isn't found - it is co-created.We don't find love. We find one another and allow love to grow between us.


Differences are an opportunity to grow

Many people believe that those conflicts are signs that the relationship is off track. But what drives a relationship off track is not conflict but the inability to handle conflict.

What lies before them is the opportunity to learn from each other

working together as a team and
relying on each other's strengths.

create a true partnership out of the differences.


love is tested through conflict

They give us the opportunity to value how different we are from the one we love and
use those differences to grow and change.

Curiosity is a powerful tool in a relationship because it means staying open and wanting to know more about the other person.

We need to love others for who they are if we desire to be loved in the same way.


if you're not being loved for who you really are, you're not being loved at all.

Sunday, February 10, 2008

happy new year & happy new dreams

we 've just past CNY days and tmr is day one at work again. How i dread the coming of tomorrow.

Why?

After rotting for so "long" for about 4 days in Msia not doing much... after in CNY mood for about few weeks, and where has the "usual love for work" been to?

Nah, i didn't left it back at Muar. I brought myself back in whole. I had sent my resignation in already. No, it wasn't regret ... but yes, plenty of guilt and sea of sadness predicted to flood my valley...

The thought of looking at RW 's hurt face, been-betrayed SCP's eyes... and all the others... i wonder how to comfort so many... (i really cant think straight... really)


During the days of my lazy CNY 4 day TOTAL holiday, i read few pages from Dale's Carnegie and got a few dreams into my tiny mind...

1. i must have a goal & plan for the goal. and i must act on it. Otherwise, i m really drifting on water... and seems like everybody's got a plan somehow.. some short , some plan long..

2. i do not have any idea that people are born to have dreams.. and i grew up not knowing that i can have a dream, a big one, and acheive it...

3. i m 24 this year to come. and have yet to save enough to even finance my own schooling fees and i owe lots for insurance premium...

4. with GOD's power in me, i know i can acheive anything , that GOD can put in my heart.

5. what i set my heart to do, i can do, because GOD's power will keep me

6. the plan i do must be in alignment with GOD's Great commission and i really like it to be

7. recycling, massage, waste removal & waste to fuel, teach, using people whom others don't(-e.g. deploying teenagers from their hometowns, jobless and idling to work - perhaps to sell ICT products e.g. handphones, pda / teaching them construction specialist skills / open job agency to bridge those who seek work / experience w bigger co. at city ?), is gd biz. what's a gd business is , it sustainable, alive for a purpose, beyond benefiting oneself and beyond being only profitable, it serves people and has a key interest in making people better than where they were originally .

8. there are so many potential opportunities.. that i do not know where to start from... but first of all.. i need to finish my studies and think what are the SWOT in any industry that i ve mentioned above...

9. for this period i need to read moreabout entrepreneurship; learn the skills of determination & perserverance , creativity, sharp to money and dollar sense, good sense of global economy and local, sensitivity for market trend, network w ppl, talk to ppl about my plan (reveal a little about my long term goal), diligence...

10. pray and continue to seek (GOD), do (work and serve hard, play hard as well), learn from what u did or observe.

PRESS ON!!!

if you fail to plan, you plan to fail.


GOD, my heavenly father, give me a dream, teach me a plan, and make me before Thee that i may always hear your voice. Thank you for your love and patience! May i sought your way and find, and may i always serve Thee with a cheerful heart.